tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25740524.post8040907567228605416..comments2024-03-11T13:16:19.098-04:00Comments on Ad Orientem: Death: Forget closure, normal grief can last foreverUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25740524.post-79818193531282585162014-11-17T18:27:16.651-05:002014-11-17T18:27:16.651-05:00"But what is still so hard for us to face, is..."But what is still so hard for us to face, is that his death, like all unwanted deaths really, would still have been an unmitigated disaster. It still would have hurt like hell. It would still have opened a door that could never fully be closed again."<br /><br />Having lost four babies, I can say with all honesty that I will grieve in some form or fashion for the rest of my life. And I tried to do everything "right" - I held them, took photos, spent plenty of time with them, and buried them. I've given alms in their memories and said memorial services. Even when you cross all the t's and dot all the i's, grief doesn't somehow disappear after a few days or weeks. We need to stop classifying normal grief as a pathology to be "fixed" as soon as possible. Matushka Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10522097149212770814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25740524.post-6803341229515952142014-11-17T18:21:00.199-05:002014-11-17T18:21:00.199-05:00This is true. There are some wounds that just don&...This is true. There are some wounds that just don't close. We just continue to bear them and they become part of who we are.The Anti-Gnostichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04386593803225823789noreply@blogger.com